To Gain You Have to Lose

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Do you believe that you have to lose to gain? Do you have to give up something to get something in return?


Life is a continuous cycle of "give and take". I believe that is true in all things. 

In adulthood, you have to give up the childhood feeling of invincibility to function as a safe and well-established adult in life. 

In marriage, you have to develop your sense of individuality to incorporate the choices and decisions of your lifelong partner. And no, I don't mean giving up your entire identity. You have to form it to include the family you have chosen to start a new life with. It's a life with another person. Every thought and decision can't be just about you. That's a one-way ticket to divorce-town (I've been married for 7 years, I have a leg to stand on regarding this topic). You can still choose to follow your dreams, just don't leave your partner behind, bring them along for the ride!

In a job or career, you have to give up this sense of independence and will ultimately need to rely on your team to get the job done. As an educator, if I were to choose the route of isolation and independence, keeping the mentality that I can do everything fine by myself, I would have eventually ended my career. I would not and could not be successful if I operated that way. That is the same with any job. You have to rely on those around you within the workplace.

In school, you have to give up comfort to succeed in your classes. You cannot stay in a position that you need to be comfortable being by yourself when it comes to group projects, or working with friends even though everyone gets distracted and never finishes work on time, to choosing to stay comfortable while scrolling on your phone or computer instead of completing the task given to you. (Yes, I'm talking to those high school/college students o.o)

So, would you agree that to gain, you have to lose?

"Sometimes the best gain is to lose."
George Gerbert

Until next time, 
- Mo


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